Our Community Guidelines
D Lulu only works if the people on it feel safe, respected, and able to be themselves. Here's what that looks like in practice.
The four pillars
Respect
Treat everyone the way you would want a stranger to treat your closest friend.
Safety
Meet in public, tell someone you trust, and leave if you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
Honesty
Be who you say you are. Real photos. Real name or consistent display name. Real age.
Privacy
What's said on D Lulu stays on D Lulu. Don't screenshot, don't share, don't expose others.
1. Respect each other
Treat others with kindness and respect. Harassment, hate speech, and abusive behaviour are not allowed on D Lulu.
Do
- Be curious. Ask questions. Assume good intent until shown otherwise.
- Take “no” or silence as a complete answer.
- Use someone's correct name and pronouns.
- Walk away from a thread that isn't working out — gently.
Don't
- Insult, demean, or threaten anyone.
- Send unsolicited sexual photos or messages.
- Use slurs, hate speech, or content targeting someone's race, religion, sexuality, gender, disability, or national origin.
- Spam, pile on, or coordinate harassment.
2. Stay safe in the real world
D Lulu is designed for real-life meetups. Please look after yourself.
- Meet in public first. Cafés, bars, parks, museums — places with other people around.
- Tell a friend. Share the plan, the venue, and a rough time you expect to be home.
- Arrange your own transport. Don't rely on someone you're meeting for the first time to get you home.
- Trust your instincts. If something feels off, leave. You never owe anyone an explanation.
- Don't send money. Ever. If someone you met on D Lulu asks you to send money, gift cards, crypto, or to invest in something — it's a scam. Report it.
- Don't meet intoxicated. Save the second drink for later, when you know you're comfortable, and keep your drink with you.
- Verified is not vetted. A face-verified mark means a live face matched the account’s photos and is not on another account. It is not an identity or background check — use your own judgement.
In immediate danger? Contact your local emergency services first. Then, if you're comfortable, report the user in-app so we can investigate and protect others.
3. Be who you say you are
Every bit of trust on D Lulu starts with authenticity.
- Real photos. Recent (within the last two years), clearly showing your face, and of you. We use a face-match check to help keep this honest.
- Real age. D Lulu is 18+ only. Lying about age is both a violation of our Terms and, depending on who you interact with, a crime.
- Consistent identity. You can use a nickname or first name only, but don't impersonate another real person, a celebrity, a fictional character, or a generic “catfish” identity.
- Honest context. Don't lie about being single if you're not, and don't fake check-ins, attendance or meetups.
4. Protect each other's privacy
Every D Lulu user — including you — is someone's friend, neighbour, colleague, or family member. Treat their information the way you'd want yours treated.
- Don't screenshot and share chats, profiles or activities on social media or messaging apps.
- Don't share contact details (phone numbers, addresses, workplaces) of other users with anyone.
- Don't publish about other people in a way that is defamatory, sexual without their consent, or designed to humiliate them.
- Ask before you film. Don't photograph, record or livestream people at a meetup without their consent, and don't track, follow or turn up uninvited on anyone.
- Consent before photos. Never upload a photo of someone else as your profile photo, and never upload intimate imagery of another person — ever.
5. Keep it personal
D Lulu isn't a marketplace or a mailing list. Verified businesses can host activities through the business features; everyone else keeps it personal.
- No promoting services, businesses, OnlyFans, side-hustles, MLMs, or crypto from a personal account.
- No fundraising, solicitation, or begging.
- No bots, no automation, no mass-scraping.
- No multiple accounts.
5a. Hosts and businesses
- Describe it honestly. An activity, a place, an offer or a deal must be what you say it is. Businesses must honour their offers exactly as shown.
- Treat guests fairly. Don't refuse or treat anyone differently because of race, ethnicity, religion, disability, sexual orientation, gender or national origin. A business may set who an activity is for only through the options D Lulu offers.
- Keep it safe. Hosts and businesses are responsible for their own activities and venues. Don't host anything unsafe or illegal, and follow the law on alcohol.
- Reviews are earned, not bought. Never offer anything in exchange for a review or a rating, and never write one about your own business.
6. Zero tolerance
The following will get your account permanently banned immediately, without warning, and — where the law requires it — reported to law enforcement:
- Any sexual content involving minors, or any content that sexualises minors in any way. We report it to the relevant authorities, such as the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) or the equivalent authority where you are, as the law requires.
- Anyone under 18 using D Lulu, or anyone helping them to.
- Non-consensual intimate imagery — “revenge porn”, hidden-camera footage, leaked nudes, deepfake pornography.
- Credible threats of violence, terrorism, or self-harm toward others.
- Doxxing — sharing someone's private personal information with intent to intimidate or harm.
- Human trafficking, sex trafficking, or sale of sexual services.
- Impersonation of another real person, including using their photos.
- Coordinated harassment campaigns.
- Sale of drugs, weapons, or other illegal goods.
7. How to report, block, and get help
Report. Members, activities, messages, businesses and reviews all have a Report option. Use it — reports are reviewed by our moderation team, with the help of automated tools. We aim to review safety-critical reports quickly. You can also email support@dlulu.app. The person you report is not told who reported them.
Block. You can block someone by account, by phone number, or by email address. Blocking someone by a photo of their face is no longer offered; face blocks made before then still apply (see the Biometric Consent). These safety controls are available without a paid subscription. Blocking is silent — the blocked person is not told.
Need help? If you're in a crisis, please reach out to local emergency or mental-health services. D Lulu is not an emergency or support service.
8. Consequences
We decide what to do about a breach, depending on how serious it is, the risk to others, and your history. We may:
- Remove content or limit a feature, with or without a warning;
- Suspend your account for a set period; or
- Ban you permanently. A banned account cannot sign in, and we use the banned phone number and face to stop the person creating a new account.
We may take any of these steps first, skip steps, or combine them; anything under Zero Tolerance normally leads to a permanent ban. We may act on behaviour off D Lulu too — for example at a meetup, or reported to us by the police — where it affects the safety of our community. We may share information with law enforcement as the law allows or requires, and we cooperate with valid legal requests.
9. Appeals
If you think we made the wrong call, email support@dlulu.app from the email address, or with the phone number, on your account. Tell us why you disagree. We will look at it again — where we can, with someone who did not make the first decision — and let you know the outcome. Our decision after review is final, except where the law gives you other options.
10. These rules will evolve
We'll update these guidelines as D Lulu grows and as new kinds of good — and bad — behaviour emerge. We may tell you about important changes in the app. Not every kind of harmful behaviour is listed here; we may act on anything that puts our community at risk. These guidelines are part of our Terms of Service. The current version is always at dlulu.app/legal/community-guidelines.
Thanks for looking out for each other.
D Lulu exists because the most memorable encounters in life usually happen with a stranger. Let's keep those moments kind, honest, and safe.